4 steps to moving on according to jackie b. :)
Step 1: The first step to moving on is wanting to get over someone.
You’re lost. This is that part in the hurtful process where you still have deep feelings for this person. You two are prolly messing around, have decided to be friends, or maybe yall jus ended on a bad note. Either which, you’re feeling love’s pain and even though you still really wanna be with that person, you’re having the feeling that maybe it’s time to let go…but you just don’t wanna let go yet..if at all..
Step 2: You finally decide to move on.
Push came to shove, and you decided to let it go. For good. You opened your eyes to the fact that it’s not gonna work out, you’re fighting a losing battle, they’ll never feel the same way you do, and/or love just isn’t what you need right now. There’s plenty of other ways to say how you feel but in the end they all make you feel crappy one way or the other. You still wanna be with the one you love. Like ciara said “you & i sounds so right but ima let it go tonight.” Thas what you’re heart is saying at this step.
Step 3: Getting over them.
This in my opinion is the hardest step of the process. You’re beginning to get used to the fact that you two won’t be together now or if ever. You seem them flirting with other people or maybe getting into another relationship…but you don’t feel that stab in your heart anymore. You can stomache it. You don’t leave the room when they walk in anymore and now you can even look them in the eye and smile. The killer part? You still wanna love them. Every new person they messin wit can’t love him/her as well as you. You believe they don’t even deserve to be in his/her shadow. Late at night memories hit you hard and you’re still prolly shedding tears behind closed doors. You find yourself yearning to just wanna say i miss you or i love you, still hoping that they’ll say it back and mean it like you do. You wish them the best in everything they do, but you still wanna be the best they’ll ever have. This part is the hardest because you don’t know how long it will take to get over the. For some people it takes a couple of days, maybe even a few weeks. But for many, myself included, it can take months even years.
Step 4: You’ve moved on.
And that’s that. No more lingering feelings. No more pain. You’re enjoying the single life, got into another relationship (taking it slow of course), or maybe you’re just doing you right now. All you know is that that person is no longer the face of love’s pain for you. Hell you two are prolly even friends, maybe even damn good friends! But the pain is gone. You’re heart is healed and when you’re ready, you can love again. When you’re ready, you’ll open your heart and give your trust to a new love. Moving on can happen..
step 1 to step 4 overnight. here we go let me sleep on it.
